The Power of Hair

Quinn was behind me, hands on my shoulders, pressing his body against mine. Nuzzling and kissing my neck….”don’t ever cut your hair” he whispered. *shiver*

I was at the moment pushed gently against the ice cream machine that I had been attempting to disassemble as part of my duties, part of the nightly closing process as a crew member at McDonalds. I must have been 17 at the time. Quinn was close in age, but he was also my swing shift manager. And my friend. We didn’t date…well, once (that is another story)…but beyond that, we were just friends, and the ice cream machine moment was out of the ordinary…for us. I always liked Quinn.

“Don’t forget…never cut your hair…” he reminded me as he kissed me again before leaving me to my work.

It ended there. We closed the store and went our separate ways that night, but those words have bounced around in my head ever since.

My hair was fairly long and for work it had to be contained…I usually chose braids, but tried to be creative. Realistically, my hair in braids was not my favorite style, but since I had the choice between that and a hair net…well…I could have done a bun, but that would have been very close to “hair net” for me and my hair was just a bit too long for a ponytail. I chose braids!

It was probably less than eight weeks later that that I spontaneously, drastically and ultimately…regretfully, cut it all off.

Quinn was right. Like Samson, there was a bit of power in my hair that I lost with that salon visit.

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Music and Memories

It was several weeks after the accident before I could actually turn on a radio, or listen to music at all. It was much longer before I was able to listen to the The Format or The Fray, just two of the many bands that Sunny and I had in common. Songs by both bands are still greeted with an involuntary reach for the controls to change the channel or bump the mp3 player to the next song, it is all still very painful.

I was afraid that I would lose music altogether. I am glad that I haven’t, but…still, nearly every song I hear,whether old or new, is laced with memories of her.

I never know when it will hit, only that it will…sometime, everyday (except one). Music is often a trigger, but it could be anything. Friday, while driving to meet Starr, I saw a couple of high school boys driving in my neighborhood. It was lunch time, and I know that they were on their way back to school. It was something about that sight, about their innocence, their freedom, the potential of their future, that made me lose it…for just the first time that day.

“How to Save a Life” – The Fray
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We’re All in This Together


“We’re All in This Together” – Ben Lee
I “heard” this song yesterday for the first time. It echoes some of the ideas that I have been trying to share in some of my recent posts: The things Jill Bolte Taylor said. The ideas held dear by my church community. The ideas presented in the books that I am reading.
I believe that the more time we spend choosing to run the deep inner peace circuitry of our right hemispheres, the more peace we will project into the world and the more peaceful our planet will be. And I thought that was an idea worth spreading.

Jill Bolte Taylor

*My apologies to anyone who works at Kohl’s…I hear that this song makes you want scream…I understand.

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Her Stroke of Insight

I was introduced to this video by a friend from church this week. I found it moving, interesting and an “idea worth spreading”.

Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor had an opportunity few brain scientists would wish for: One morning, she realized she was having a massive stroke. As it happened — as she felt her brain functions slip away one by one, speech, movement, understanding — she studied and remembered every moment. This is a powerful story about how our brains define us and connect us to the world and to one another.

I had never heard of a TED Talk before, but I am glad that I am aware of this source now.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor

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Dragonfly Tuesday


sun glittered wing, originally uploaded by in touch.

I am in a dragonfly mood today. There are so many beautiful dragonfly pictures on Flickr, it was hard to choose…


Aiming toward the mark, originally uploaded by j_jyarbrough.

And just when I thought I didn’t have a decent song to add, these songs arrived in my email…thanks to Fingertips!

“When Water Comes to Life” – Cloud Cult

“Swimming” – Shelley Short

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Hearts and Tomatoes

Starr has three siblings. She has an older sister, who joined our family through Big Brothers Big Sisters, and stayed! We love her and she is never anything less than “sister” in our hearts. She also has two younger siblings that came the more natural way via her dad. Technically half-siblings, I guess, but we don’t and never did use that term around here. Just sister and brother. I have decided that for blog purposes, Starr’s little sister, who is thirteen, will be called Sissy, and her nine year old brother will be known as Rocket.

I called Starr and asked her what I should call her brother and she suggested “Lil’ Pimp” and for her sister? “Miss Teen Angst”…hmm…for now, I guess I will stick with Rocket and Sissy.

This is a little Rocket story. Rocket is funny, athletic, energetic, caring and spontaneous, as well as being a flat out cutie-pie. I know that he will be a great teenager, and a caring, loving adult, but I also know that I will miss his unique Rocketness as he ages. He is also a big time flirt, easily charming women of all ages.

Rocket and Sissy were coming to our house for an overnight with their big sister. They live a little over an hour away from us, closer to the city. Sissy had a volleyball game that afternoon, so Starr and I decided to leave early, go to the mall, look for the perfect shoes for prom and then head on down to watch the volleyball game.

In the school gym, Rocket was busy, hanging around his “girlfriend” Jamie. Jamie was 13 or 14 years old, Rocket was eight. She thought he was cute and sweet, but…ya know…eight. At some point during the game, he overheard her refer to another boy as her “boyfriend”. Seriously crushed and feeling quite frankly cheated on, Rocket’s life collapsed around him. Comforting from dad did little to soothe this broken heart.

After the game, I have loaded all three kids into my car, and we are on our way home. Rocket has finally stopped actively crying, and is just sullen and quiet. Starr, Sissy and I are trying to raise the energy level in the car, playing the music loud and singing along. (Yes, me too…but don’t tell anyone.) He had just begun to involve himself in our conversations, and seemed a bit better when he announced that he had to pee.

“Now! Pull over!”

“Well, I can’t actually do that right now, but I will find you a place to go as soon as possible.” I reply honestly, as we were on a busy freeway.

Helpfully, Sissy says, “Think of something dry.”

“All I can think about are wet things!” He whines.

Starr and I exchange looks, and I try not to laugh. The next available bathroom is not far off, and just as we approach the exit. Rocket complains, “I really really have to go to the bathroom, and the only thing I can think about are tears!”

“Tears?” Starr and I asked in unison.

“Yeah. Big WET tears.” he says so very seriously. “Like the tears running down my face. Running down my face, because Jamie squashed my heart like a tomato!!”

Oh, my…I love that kid!

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Just Stop!

All afternoon, I have had an earworm, a frustrating portion of a song stuck in my head. I keep hearing it over and over. The song is one from a Christian Music commercial and what I am hearing is “My (our?) God is an Awesome God!”, just that part, again and again. I think that even if it was a song that I absolutely loved…enough would be enough. Really. So, in hopes of reprogramming my mind a bit tonight, here are a few mp3s and a “video” to listen to:

“Sonic Boom” – Andy Partridge

“Reflecting Light” – Sam Phillips

“Phantom Limb” – The Shins

“To Go Home” – M. Ward


“Aht Uh Mi Hed” – Shuggie Otis
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